I'm Used to Fighting My Own Fights
Now I can't... and it's so frustrating. Jason's mom is so hateful and mean and she KNEW what she said would get back to me. And the way his parents treat Jason is shameful...like he's a little boy.
There is nothing I can do though. They don't want to see me, and believe me, the feeling is entirely mutual.
What on earth would I say to them? "So... you hate me. Ever plan on not?"
Can I call the ADL and have them picket their house? Sheesh.
What a mess.
There is nothing I can do though. They don't want to see me, and believe me, the feeling is entirely mutual.
What on earth would I say to them? "So... you hate me. Ever plan on not?"
Can I call the ADL and have them picket their house? Sheesh.
What a mess.
posted by Debcapsfan | 11:29 AM
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Wow Debs, I'm so sorry. Did Jason tell you what she said? Maybe if he tells her he will no longer pass on the hateful comments, she won't feel as though there is a point in saying things like that?
Also, I wonder if she is the type who would hate you until (god forbid) you two ever broke up, and then all of a sudden she would remember you differently? Has that been a pattern for her? Does she hate most his GFs?
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It sounds like she made up her mind no matter what you are like to not like you.
It is an obstacle but one that can be overcome. Just an extra step in making your relationship progress and succeed. It sucks but if you take the high road you will in the long one be respected.
Jason is going to have to do some defending though. It's not really a choice between you and her at this point but he has to tell them where you stand in his life.
{{{HUGS}}}}
And the good thing is that how he decides to handle this this will tell you a lot about Jason.
And the SCARY thing is that this will tell you a lot about Jason.
Hopefully, he does the right thing by you and is man enough to stand up to his mother.
Is it weird that I hate a woman for being so hateful?
I agree with MTW completely.
No, because I feel that way about her.
It's not really me she means to hurt though, she means to hurt Jason with her comments. I think he knows that. After all, she told him she can never be happy if he's happy.
Strange and scary woman.
Hang in there, Deb. It sounds like you are so in love with Jason, and he with you. Just be patient and forget about the woman behind the curtain (future MIL). In the long run, it will be what you and Jason want that really matters.
*hugs* and Happy Holidays!
Basically, what MTW said. If your relationship progresses, though, you get the whole package. The ILs may not be in your house, but they're going to be a part of your life. I'm certainly not going to tell you what you should do here, but I doubt either you or he will change them much.
My MIL knows how to push my buttons and can get on my nerves. But I know she's kind-hearted deep down.
And FWIW, my parents stopped treating me like a child when I started acting more like an adult with them.
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